Is your friendship worth keeping? PDF Print E-mail
Monday, 18 May 2015 08:38

COLOURS OF LIFE

BY GRACE C. ESPIRITUSANTO

“A friend is a push, when you’ve stopped. A word, when you’re lonely. A guide, when you’re searching.

A smile, when you’re sad.  A song, when you’re glad.”  — Anonynous

If I may say so, we all have friends, but how do we know if their friendship is worth keeping or even if ours is? We always think that we are a good friend but have we really pondered how good a friend are we. Many times when good things are going, we always want to be where others are but the moment things gets shaky and problems arises, we tend to shy away from them and give all sorts of reasons why we do…like we’re too busy, we’re not feeling very well, we’re out of town, and a lot more reasons. We pretend not to know what’s going on.

True friendship is defined by a trust, concern and true affection toward others. That’s why a famous author said, “To go through life without a true friend is to have missed one of the most challenging of human experiences.” As a friend, have we ever stopped to ask how things are going on with them? Have we spent quality time doing all the foolish things we can without hesitation or feel fear or worry about offending others? Have we held their hands just to comfort them when they are alone or sick or helpless? Have we lent our ears to listen to their woes, fears, anxieties, happiness, gloominess or annoyance?

Are we worth keeping as a friend? Are we the kind who visit them when they are sick, who write them notes to show that we care about them, who buys them any simple presents even when there are no occasions to celebrate? Are we a true friend? Have we thank God for bringing them into our lives and share our ups and downs without faltering?

Our real worth as a true friend is measured by the kind thoughts, words and deeds we give others; when we share our blessings, our great joys, and even our deepest sorrows with them. As a good friend, we cherish these people who take part in our daily life and we feel that our life would be less meaningful and worth living without their presence. We value these people so much that when we lose them, we also lose a part of our life.

“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, Nor the kind smile nor the joy of companionship;

It is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one When he discovers that someone else believed in him and is willing to trust him.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson