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Sunday, 07 June 2015 16:12

TODAY’S MANNA

BY Berlie G. Yap

The best attitude is to receive positively any reprimand, that for your own good and personal character development. You may feel an emotional stir for a while. Just leave it though, because it is only temporary. What matters more is your character pliability. Humility is a virtue that God promised a sure exaltation. “Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you.” (Js. 4:10, NIV)

Correction is a protection to a certain sense for the person corrected. Men in higher positions do have the accountability to correct their subordinates, especially if they are at fault, for example employers to their employees, parents to their children, or teachers to their students. I know a dad after spanking his children, would always leave them with a word of affirmation, that they are hurt because they are loved.

Check this out—God’s exhortation concerning corrections: “It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.” (Heb. 12:7-8, NIV)

How about employers to their employees? Giving the former the benefit of the doubt, the latter must still receive any correction positively. Though it is cardinal—when an employer reprimands his employee, to always do them in private and not to embarrass the latter in public. When this happens, the usual retaliation of any employee is to rebel against his employer.

For example, a driver may poke intentionally the tires of his boss’s car. Well, such act is also wrong. I know of an employer, with her entire family, who was butchered by their houseboy. When the said perpetrator was apprehended, the man was without remorse, relating to the police, that he did those because of anger and it was, accordingly, to get even to his bad employer and his family who cursed him every day.

Good attitude: When a person who has accountability to you corrects you, receive them goodly inside your heart despite the pain. It is your best and only option, anyways. Why? Simply because when you harbor anger or hatred in your heart, it will defile you. Thus, some people can just easily commit or do horrifying acts, relative to that crime I quoted above.

The act of acceptance is not a benefit to the former but to the latter. This principle is called by counselors as character-building. Every time we choose the higher road, God does see them. When we humble ourselves, without anybody noticing it, God who silently saw it will surely reward us openly.

Joseph, in the book of Genesis, was helpless when he was falsely accused by his employer. He was a slave and had no power to resist any judgment by his master. When he was meted imprisonment, all the young man could do was to fall tears from his eyes and trust the Almighty God. That moment, a degree of brokenness happened inside the being of Joseph.

Little did he know that the Father actually was only preparing him for the real job and life destiny that God was preparing for him, being a slave-master to the house of Potiphar was not Joseph’s calling, it was to be Egypt’s Prime Minister one day. Those earlier submissions that he must yield were his tickets to quality him to his real designation which God determined in the eternity past.

Bitter people cannot handle an office well. They often hurt others because they, too, are hurting inside. If one, earlier, resists corrections and that becomes accumulated inside him, they will file up to become a kind of callousness in his inner soul. Thus, when he can be given a break, all he could do is also to hurt others, and insult or embarrass his subordinates.

On the other hand, the person who accepts correction is always free from anger and hatred. He also is able to sleep well every single night. He may cry for a while and feel the pain for a little time, but definitely he can be healed. He, too, cannot cry forever and his emotional wounds won’t also fester longer, simply because he chose acceptance.

This is really very true to children. The Bible sternly warns, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ (this is the first commandment with a promise), ‘that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.’” (Eph. 6:1-3, ESV)

To an establishment, when you, as an employee, can feel that the environment is pretty unhealthy already, politely tender your resignation. Never succumb to a life of hatred and bitterness. Don’t also worry that you cannot find a job. God is faithful to instead give you a better one. Only trust the Lord.

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