Marriage: Have you been true to your vows? PDF Print E-mail
Friday, 06 November 2015 13:45

COLOURS OF LIFE

BY GRACE C. ESPIRITUSANTO

“You don’t marry one person; you marry three— The person you think they are, the person they are, And the person they are going to be as a result of being married to you.” — Richard Needham

I have been married for thirty eight years and I could say that I have experienced all of life’s ups and downs of a married life and I’m glad the ups were more than the downs. And I would not change it for anything.

Marriage these days seem to be like a cheap commodity that couples throw out like garbage the moment they get tired of each other. No more “till death do us part” promise as we used to have. Sometimes it is like a game to them, changing partners every so often like nothing’s happened and the game is over. Sometimes marriages last only for a few days, a week, a month, and then partners go their separate ways.

For Catholics, the Holy Matrimony is a sacred thing and I believe it is for other beliefs too, but many young adults take it for granted. In Genesis 2: 18, the Lord said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a suitable partner for him.”When God established marriage in Eden, he wanted it to be a lifelong union between a man and a woman; to take care and raise their children well and to create a family —  a home. It was never meant to be a “come and go” thing.

For those who are planning to get married, be sure that you are ready to accept whatever comes your way, ask God for guidance, seek His help if you must, by doing this, you will have the strength to overcome anything that may threaten your marriage. Never leave a quarrel unresolved, things will always work out if you both listen to each other, trust, respect and have faith.

To couples whose marriage is a bit shaky, try to remember the very reason why you got married in the first place, was is not because you love each other. Try to rekindle that same love and respect you had for one another and again ask for God’s enlightenment and guidance. It is not yet too late to remember the vows you made to each other on your wedding day!

Happily married couples don’t mean they have not experienced married life’s battles - - it’s just that their love and respect for each other was more than their troubles and so they survived. Remember, Lapel Button said, “If it weren’t for marriage, men and women would have to fight with complete strangers.”

For every married couples out there, thank God for the gift of marriage and look forward to many more years of a happy and blessed married life.

“Before you marry, keep your two eyes open, after you marry. Shut one.” — Jamaican proverb

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