Building a healthy self-esteem PDF Print E-mail
Thursday, 28 September 2017 13:42

REFLECTION

BY FR. ROY CIMAGALA

WE should be concerned also about this matter. We cannot and should not take this for granted. Many are now the problems arising from this area of concern, and they are getting worse by the day. We need to act!

I notice that even among young people today, the lack of a healthy self-esteem is growing. Many of them are already experiencing depression and extreme forms of discouragement. Some of them have gone to the extent of inflicting self-harm and becoming suicidal even. Others react the other way by becoming wild and violent.

Still many others get imprisoned in their own shells due to forms of shyness, fear, shame, and a very low regard of their own selves. It is really a pity because if we get to know them better, we also get convinced that they actually possess good potentials for greatness. Something is keeping them enchained. We need to free them.

It’s good that young people are really attended to very closely. We need to get to know them and nourish their spiritual, mental and emotional life properly. Everyone, of course, has his own share of defects and weaknesses. But these are no reasons at all to lose confidence in oneself. If anything at all, these can be used as an occasion to build a healthy self-esteem.

A healthy self-esteem is not simply a function of good things in life. It’s not just a matter of having the good fortune of being rich, talented, intelligent, famous, etc. It’s not even a matter of temperament. A self-esteem based on these foundations is deceptive, will not last long and cannot cope with all the challenges of life.

A healthy self-esteem is simply a matter of being invincibly aware that no matter what human condition we may be in, we are all children of God, object of his unfailing love, for whom God became man to save us by dying on the cross.

This is the very core of a healthy self-esteem. We need to embed this truth deeply in the mind and heart of the people, especially the young ones. This may not be very easy to do, since for many reason, people can resist this truth. But if we are persistent, patient and inventive, I am sure we can make it.

The important thing to do is to really reach out to everyone, get to know them well, accompanying them spiritually, intellectually and emotionally. We need to reassure them always, motivating them to do what they are supposed to do, helping them to cope with their difficulties, defects and mistakes.

We have to reassure them of the effectiveness of all the basic and indispensable spiritual and supernatural means, as well as help them acquire the appropriate attitudes, skills, virtues that go into the making of a healthy self-esteem.

Once they get it, they will exude a stable self-confidence that would enable them do their responsibilities whatever the conditions may be. There will be poise, optimism and realism, joy and peace, fruitfulness and productivity in their lives.

Ultimately, they will manage to relate themselves properly to God and to others, always thankful for everything! We have to devise strategies to build a healthy self-esteem in everyone, starting with those by our side.