The Signs of Loneliness: Have you seenit? PDF Print E-mail
Tuesday, 29 May 2018 14:30

COLOURS OF LIFE

BY GRACE C. ESPIRITUSANTO

 

“The Little Boy and the Old Man”

 

Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.”

Said the old man, “I do that too.”

The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.”

I do that too,” laughed the little old man.

Said the little boy, “I often cry.”

The old man nodded, “So do I.”

But worst of all,” said the boy, “it seems

Grown-ups don’t pay attention to me.”

And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand.

I know what you mean,” said the little old man.”

¯ Shel Silverstein

 

When families or friends are always there for us,

we often take them for granted. We think that they

will always be there because they need us. There are

even times when we show irritation or even anger

whenever they call our attention or ask us for favors.

But never did we think that our behavior has

caused them so much pain and loneliness.

 

Did you know that there are several reasons for being lonely?

When people lack confidence in themselves they often

believe that they are unworthy of the attention or

regard of other people and this can lead to isolation.

Sometimes, we have no knowledge that a person is

being abused or rejected by others and we still

add to it by being insensitive to their needs and

ignore the signs that we see and become

an accessory to their lonesomeness.

 

Our adolescents who are confused about their stage

in lifeand are afraid to let us know what is happening

to themfor fear of being scolded or punished.

At home, being hurt by other members of the family,

in school being bullied by peers or in the community being threatened or harassed by others and we never seem to care.

This can cause them severe lonesomenessand low self-esteem.

 

Our elders at home, who we reprimand, others even

hurt them physically, for repeated stories or messy

table or several requests for things they are no longer

able to do for themselves.Such loneliness and pain for

them who once have cared for us.These people

feel lonely because they don’t have therequired

attention, friendships and love that they need.

Feeling that no one around them cares or

wants to knowor understand what

theyare going through.

 

When someonefeels alone, separated from others or unsupported and distressed,isolation gets in.

Loneliness, separation and living alone canbe as

threatening to health as tolife itself. Lonely persons

can think of so many ways to end their miseries

unless we do something about it before it becomes

too late. Let us give them the hope and

love that they want to see and feel. Let

never again loneliness fill anyone’s life.