Springs of Joy: When it’s time for a change… PDF Print E-mail
Friday, 11 November 2011 13:29

BY Jane dela Cruz Bascar

Until I am truly back on my feet and can come up with something original, I hope that for now, you’ll bear with me if I opt instead to simply share with you some articles that I come across while poring over the materials I have on hand. This piece about making changes by Allison Haynes was taken from the Reader’s Digest, January 2007 issue. Haynes writes:

“Sometimes you know you need a change, but you can’t quite put your finger on what exactly is making you unsettled, frustrated or just plain down.

Desires can be muddled by concern for others in your life, fear of the consequences or being out of touch with your feelings. A few mental exercises can help pinpoint your goals.

Take some time and write down your thoughts, worries and desires. It’s a powerful way to clarify your thinking, confront fears and help secure your commitment.
If you’re not sure where to start, take a look at your life from a number of perspectives: relationships, work, money, health, creativity or “soul” and home. How do you feel about each of these areas?

Be specific. What actions can you take to improve on them? Think big and think small.

Still stumped? Try one of these tactics:

A wish list Write it freely, then decide on some filters to help sort it. For instance, you could organize it according to what’s possible, likely, requires miracles, short term, medium term, long term and so on.

Your life in a day Write a one page summary of what’s going on in your world. You can write about your job, your family, what’s bugging you and what you’re thrilled about.

“If I had a year to live” What would you do if you knew time was running out?

The value of values What do you care most about? Do you have a life philosophy? How does it relate to people, money, status or the environment? What motivates you?

When you’ve had a chance to mull over your thoughts, it’s time for action. Setting goals will help you focus on what you want to achieve, while making plans maps out the route. Fine-tune your goals by giving them a winning edge, making them:

Specific “Buy trainers and jog two times a week” rather than “get fit.”

Measurable “Lose three kilos” is a measurable goal with an end-point, but “lose some weight” is not.

Attainable Set goals in tune with your strengths and weaknesses.

Time-specific Time frames focus resolve: “To visit relatives overseas before the end of the year” rather than “as soon as we can.”

Well, I hope you were able to pick up a few things from Hayne’s suggestions that can set you on your way to your big change. Good luck!

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