Répondez s'il vous plaît' PDF Print E-mail
Friday, 15 March 2013 13:22

Répondez s'il vous plaît' is a French phrase which means respond please. This is what we see printed in invitation as RSVP.  The person or organization who has invited you for the occasion, simply would like you to confirm your presence well in advance. It implies replying to a received invitation to state whether or not, you would be attending the event.

But it seems only few invited people has the pleasant courtesy to call or text back that they can’t make it. Most I think has this flimsy excuse “I will try” or afraid they will offend the host if they will say, “I can’t make it.”

Aside it is costly to host any event nowadays; the invitee should really be more sympathetic with the host. To my estimate, cost would range from P500 to P2000 per person from the food, to the decorations, cake, entertainment, etc. especially when it is a wedding or an anniversary occasion.

Responding to a RSVP helps the hosts have an estimate of the guests attending the event. In short, it serves as a head count, especially when it is being held in a hotel or being catered. This will not add burden to the host in the midst of the party whether the food catered is still enough and within the planned budget.

Being invited in any event is an honor. It is a great time to enjoy food and have a friendly fellowship. But some people I know have the superstar complex and would arrive late. To KSP (Kulang Sa Pansin) people, try not to get upset with your insecurities and realize that your nice personality is desired.

Here are a few social etiquettes Pep Talk deems necessary to enjoy the occasion and not be a KJ (Kill Joy) especially to the host.

1.      Dress Code – follow whatever the dress code stated in the invitation.

2.      Be punctual, ideally you should try to arrive at least 10 minutes stated in the invitation. Should you arrive early, it is the best time to mingle and meet new friends.

3.      Don’t go very hungry to a formal event as there are usual protocol program to follow before the food is serve. If you do, you might get more than what you can eat, leave excess left-over in your plate, and worse, your hunger is the cause why the catered food ran out.

4.      Eat the cocktails and fruits served in the table. They are not supposed to be take-out. I can’t understand why people will put the candies and fruits inside their bags as if they are “pasalubongs” when they go home.

5.      Listen to the speakers and avoid talking loudly with your seatmates. It is a show of disrespect.

6.      Clap to show your appreciation. Join in the standing ovation. Dance even if you are not a dancer. It is a crap to say, “I don’t dance.” It won’t kill you to move your feet forward, raise your arms, smile, and enjoy.

7.      Yes, lastly. Don’t go home until the program is finished. I am saddened to see people leaving any affair right after they eat and when there is still a program going. Worse, they wrap their own “balot” and get the decorations without informing the host.

I vividly remembered in a five-star hotel in Manila, their take-home container is a neatly designed box that one can be proud to carry around. I hope we have them like it here even one has to pay. It is better than to carry “balot” given by the host in plastic.

But really who needs a RSVP reminder when one is a polite, respectful, and a courteous person.  If you do attend, be mindful that your host is looking forward to spend a great time with you and with the other guests.



Do to others as you would have them do to you. (NIV, Luke 6:31)

By Dante Corteza