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Sunday, 16 June 2013 00:00

As we celebrate Father’s Day today, allow me to share to all the fathers out there one of the 7 secrets on how to be an effective father (The 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers by Ken Canfield).

“When you go pheasant hunting here in Kansas (USA), you have to stop at the farmer’s house first to ask permission to walk his fields. The farmer will likely be in the shed working on some piece of rusty equipment. As you pull into the driveway, he’ll look up eventually he’ll walk out to meet you, rub his greasy hands on an equally greasy rag, then shake your hand and introduce himself. The he’ll nod his head and say, “This is my boy, Jim.” The boy may be a strapping 22-year-old hunk who looks like he could throw a hay bale over the barn.

Fathers who tell children “you’re mine” and tell the world “they’re mine” give them a sense of belongingand connectedness. These children feel secure in exploring the world because they know where home is.

Watch a little kid in a crowd, his hand grabs his father’s pant leg and bunches the fabric in his tiny fist so that his fingers are close to his father’s leg. That fistful connects with the one to whom the child belongs.

Here’s how this article is being related in Becoming A Man of Integrity. When the old priest Zechariah and his wife, Elizabeth, were long past the age of childbearing, an angel told Zechariah that they would have a son, who would give then “great joy and gladness”.

Zechariah found the news so unbelievable that God kept him speechless until the child was born. After naming his son “John,’ Zechariah found he could talk again. His first words praised God and prophesied what the child would become. “The hand of the Lord is surely upon him in a special way,” amazed spectators said.

Likewise, we affirm our children when we present them as ours and praise God for them. With our encouragement, discipline, and blessingwe give them the kind of home base from which they can be launched into all kinds of endeavors. But when we present them as the Lord’s, we send them forth secure n the love of the Father who will be with them forever.

You don’t raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they’ll turn out to be heroes. (Water Schirra).

“You will have great joy and gladness, and many will rejoice with you at his birth”. Luke 1:14

Happy Father’s Day!

By Dante Corteza